How to make introducing a significant other to family less awkward this Thanksgiving

How to make introducing a significant other to family less awkward this Thanksgiving

With Thanksgiving just around the corner, the prospect of bringing a significant other home to introduce to the family can have even the most zen

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With Thanksgiving just around the corner, the prospect of bringing a significant other home to introduce to the family can have even the most zen among us  feeling especially thankful for alcohol.

In fact, a new study conducted by RITAS found that 70 per cent of American millennials are anxious about bringing a boyfriend or girlfriend home to meet the parents.

But New York City-based relationship expert Susan Winter tells FEMAIL that avoiding awkward and tense moments around the turkey is all about being prepared, carving out some alone time, and maybe even coming up with a safe word. 
Scary stuff: A new study found that 70 per cent of American millennials are anxious about bringing a boyfriend or girlfriend home to meet mom and dad (stock image)

Scary stuff: A new study found that 70 per cent of American millennials are anxious about bringing a boyfriend or girlfriend home to meet mom and dad (stock image)

Scary stuff: A new study found that 70 per cent of American millennials are anxious about bringing a boyfriend or girlfriend home to meet mom and dad (stock image)

RITAS’ survey actually found that more than half of all respondents (56%) felt nervous about bringing a significant other home, with the number shooting up to more than two thirds among those age 25 to 34.

According to Winter, it’s all about seeking approval — and determining what kinds of challenges the future holds.

Make ‘meeting the parents’ less awkward

1. Prepare your partner with information about your family members, their personalities, and their habits.

2. Plan alone time away from family, especially during a long weekend visit.

3. Come up with a secret word or phrase that signals the need for help or an escape.

4. Remember that you love this person, and trust your family will see what you do.

5. Bring drinks. 

‘We want our families’ approval for who we’ve chosen,’ she explains. ‘We want them to see the merit in our choice and to also admire and respect our choice of partner, because they’re an extension of us.

‘The last thing we want is to have conflict and disharmony, because that means we’ve got an enormous headwind in front of us if our families don’t like our partner,’ she says.

That being said, picking Thanksgiving for the big introduction actually takes some of the pressure off because the holiday is usually a big event with extended family.

‘It’s not so intimate,’ Winter says. ‘It’s much more of an inclusive gathering. It’s an optimal time if you want to introduce someone.’

That doesn’t mean the pressure’s gone altogether. But Winter says that couples can make things run as smoothly as possible by preparing ahead of time.

‘You’ve gotta be the top coach figuring out strategy for your partner,’ she says. 

First, decide beforehand how much time to spend with your family. If you’re visiting from out of town, that may mean spending a whole long weekend with the same people — which can be a lot. 

Stay smart! New York-based relationship expert Susan Winter tells FEMAIL that avoiding awkward and tense moments around the turkey is all about being prepared

Stay smart! New York-based relationship expert Susan Winter tells FEMAIL that avoiding awkward and tense moments around the turkey is all about being prepared

Stay smart! New York-based relationship expert Susan Winter tells FEMAIL that avoiding awkward and tense moments around the turkey is all about being prepared

Winter suggests planning some time alone away from the family, and maybe even offering to run last-minute errands. This way, you’re helping but also getting out of the house for a bit.

Then, give your partner the rundown of every issue he or she may walk into so they’re not caught off-guard. If one family member is particularly volatile or nosy or sensitive — or has vastly different politics from your partner — knowing ahead of time is key.

‘You’ve gotta let your partner know that crazy Uncle Charlie is gonna go off on a rant, so don’t correct him. You’ve gotta tell him that by three o’clock, Uncle Joe is gonna be snoozing, so don’t wake him,’ Winter explains.

Finally, it can help to decide on a code word or phrase that signals ‘help’ or ‘get me out of here!’

But always remember, says Winter, that you chose your partner — and were willing to bring him home — for a reason.

‘You love something about this person. You gotta trust that your family will see that too,’ she said.

Contest: RITAS is bringing back its limited-edition Cran-Ber-Rita — and offering to cover the cost of a plane ticket for a lucky winner to fly his or her significant other home for Thanksgiving

Contest: RITAS is bringing back its limited-edition Cran-Ber-Rita — and offering to cover the cost of a plane ticket for a lucky winner to fly his or her significant other home for Thanksgiving

Contest: RITAS is bringing back its limited-edition Cran-Ber-Rita — and offering to cover the cost of a plane ticket for a lucky winner to fly his or her significant other home for Thanksgiving

Of course, it also doesn’t hurt to bring a little booze, she added, which can loosen everyone up and serve as a token of goodwill.

To that end, RITAS has brought back its Cran-Ber-Rita sparkling margaritas for a limited time — and the brand is even offering to cover the cost of plane tickets for 20 lucky winners to fly their significant others home for Thanksgiving.

Hopefuls need only to visit the @RITAS Instagram page for more information between November 14 and November 19 for a shot at the $1,500 flight vouncher.

‘Whether it’s a conversation, a drink, or a person, you should never apologize for what you bring to the table,’ Chelsea Phillips, VP of Beyond Beer Brands at Anheuser Busch, said in a press release.

‘RITAS believes in this wholeheartedly, so we are removing travel as a barrier so our fans can take that leap and celebrate who they love with their family.’ 

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