A bride-to-be has provoked a furious debate after revealing that she's considering postponing her wedding because her partner can't afford her dream e
A bride-to-be has provoked a furious debate after revealing that she’s considering postponing her wedding because her partner can’t afford her dream engagement ring.
Writing under the handle ‘Blueflower22’, the woman took to British parenting site Mumsnet asking for advice because she’s not keen on the rings that are within her partner’s price range.
Revealing that they’re having a very modest wedding with an overall budget of £200, the woman explained her husband plans to save for three months to get his budget of £1,000 for the engagement ring.
However, she’s concerned that she won’t find a ring she likes withing this price range, especially as she wants a matching wedding band too.
Responses to the thread were divided with many accusing the woman of using the engagement ring as an excuse because she doesn’t really want to get married, while another didn’t mince their words by telling her: ‘I hope he leaves you for someone decent’.
A British woman took to Mumsnet asking for advice on delaying her wedding because of her engagement ring (file image)
The woman outlined in her post that her partner is saving £1000 for her engagement ring however she doesn’t like the rings within his price range
One person wrote: ‘You can’t get what you like for £1,000. Is it all about the ring or getting married to the love of your life?
‘I could never make someone save for three months. Mine was less than £200 and is very precious to me as we chose it together. Sorry, but this comes across as very materialistic.’
Another said: ‘If you’re delaying marriage because you’re fussing about the ring, I would say you subconsciously don’t want to get married at all, you just want a diamond ring to show off. Perhaps you should postpone getting engaged until you are sure.
‘I paid for my own wedding and engagement ring because I didn’t think that my then fiancé needed to put cold hard cash down on the table for us to get married. He hadn’t a bean to his name then, and we have a fabulous marriage 15 years on.’
A flood of responses to the thread accused the woman of being materialistic and using the engagement ring as an excuse while reconsidering if she really wants to get married
Others advised the woman to consider getting married without a ring or searching for a vintage version of the one she likes
Others advised the woman to invest in a vintage ring or get married without an engagement ring, while some asked why she doesn’t contribute to the cost herself.
One person said: ‘What a weird post. Having an engagement ring isn’t a legal requirement to get married so is no issue in delaying the wedding.
‘Do you want to marry the person you love or do you want a fancy ring to show off. Buy your own or contribute towards one you do like. That’s what I did.’
Many people revealed they contributed towards the cost of their ring or bought a cheap version until they could afford to replace it